In response to some recent replies...
Jul. 17th, 2003 02:57 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lsdiamondCougie,
Why would I be upset with you for not writing? It's not like I've been the pinnacle of friendly emails, either, lately. LOL! It's all good, sister. I love you! Write and tell me what all has been going on lately. Boy have we had a doozy of a summer...
~~~
Brian,
First off, did you get my email? I really didn't know what to say. How are you doing? *big hug*
As for your reply, I think there's something to what you're saying, big bro... Well, I know it. The smallest negative statement or action affects me with sometimes devastating results. Some would say I just overreact way too much to criticism. Truth be told, I probably do, but that doesn't change the fact my reaction stems from a true feeling of worthlessness when faced with such a statement or action.
I've been going pretty slowly through "Self Matters", trying to absorb as much as possible. Right now I'm still working on the 10 memories/events list, and have already noticed a disturbing pattern, starting from some of my earliest memories. At least I am beginning to understand the why behind my reactions in these situations of 'rejection'.
I hate victimization; the whole "I'm a victim, I deserve _____." mindset just makes me ill. So, I'm glad to have this new knowledge and potential self-empowerment. Thank you for sharing it with me! I just wish there was a fast and easy way to do it. :PP It's not so much unwillingness to work through it - it's knowing that however long it takes me to get to that point is that much longer I'm going to be this shell of my 'authentic self'. I have been this way for years, and I don't want to waste any more time.
~~~
In other general news, the working out thing is going well. I'm already up to benching over half my body weight...still nowhere near where I was 6 years ago, but my muscles are remembering a lot more quickly than I thought they would. They say for every year you have stopped working out, it'll take you one month to get back to where you were when you quit. That's probably about the rate I'm going, but it seems unusually quick. :) It doesn't hurt that I have been consistently going three days a week instead of only two. I can already see some definition forming.
Why would I be upset with you for not writing? It's not like I've been the pinnacle of friendly emails, either, lately. LOL! It's all good, sister. I love you! Write and tell me what all has been going on lately. Boy have we had a doozy of a summer...
~~~
Brian,
First off, did you get my email? I really didn't know what to say. How are you doing? *big hug*
As for your reply, I think there's something to what you're saying, big bro... Well, I know it. The smallest negative statement or action affects me with sometimes devastating results. Some would say I just overreact way too much to criticism. Truth be told, I probably do, but that doesn't change the fact my reaction stems from a true feeling of worthlessness when faced with such a statement or action.
I've been going pretty slowly through "Self Matters", trying to absorb as much as possible. Right now I'm still working on the 10 memories/events list, and have already noticed a disturbing pattern, starting from some of my earliest memories. At least I am beginning to understand the why behind my reactions in these situations of 'rejection'.
I hate victimization; the whole "I'm a victim, I deserve _____." mindset just makes me ill. So, I'm glad to have this new knowledge and potential self-empowerment. Thank you for sharing it with me! I just wish there was a fast and easy way to do it. :PP It's not so much unwillingness to work through it - it's knowing that however long it takes me to get to that point is that much longer I'm going to be this shell of my 'authentic self'. I have been this way for years, and I don't want to waste any more time.
~~~
In other general news, the working out thing is going well. I'm already up to benching over half my body weight...still nowhere near where I was 6 years ago, but my muscles are remembering a lot more quickly than I thought they would. They say for every year you have stopped working out, it'll take you one month to get back to where you were when you quit. That's probably about the rate I'm going, but it seems unusually quick. :) It doesn't hurt that I have been consistently going three days a week instead of only two. I can already see some definition forming.
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Date: 2003-07-17 10:02 pm (UTC)Now I totally understand when people say "you never know what you've got until it is gone." (I heard a coworker complaining today because her parents are visiting and taking up space in her small apartment, and all I could think was "you f***ing lucky girl...you still have a dad.")
I'm glad you are getting something out of the book. It's not for everyone, and I really didn't know if it would help you or not. Both Self Matters and Life Strategies really helped me. I discovered that the hand-holding methodologies and the vague concept methodologies of other authors (notably John Gray, Barbara D'Angelis, Deepak Chopra) and God-forbid the plain stupidity of Dr. Laura Schlessinger just didn't cut it for me. I needed someone to cut through the crud and tell it like it is. A good smack in the head, so to speak. Rip off the bandaid! Dr. Phil works for me.
It's a lot of work and does take time, but hey, it's the rest of your life we're dealing with. So keep at it! You should have a look at the show if you get the chance, because concepts he uses in the book are often used for several types of issues and problems he talks about on TV, and it really drives the point home.
Looks like both you and I are getting pumped. I actually have a chest, abs and arms now thanks to the new weight room at my martial arts club. Oh, and we have to thank tofu as well! ;-)
HI!!!
Date: 2003-07-18 07:22 am (UTC)ah! I have not see you around in forever (and since I am oh so unfamiliar with how lj works, I am not sure it shows that this is MrSpike/MLPQuestions)
so is the book you are reading Dr. Phil's book? I love his show. Do either of the books cover his techniques for phobias?
Also, I have noticed that I am turning into my mother and it is scaring me. I'm only 26, thats too young to turn into my mom, so I was thinking about his books. He seems to have a good handle on reprogramming techniques, which I sorely need. Keep us posted on your progress! I am interested to hear if this stuff works for you :)