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Apr. 20th, 2002 09:38 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lsdiamondToday's my try-on day... I'll do that later, though.
Overall, I'm doing ok...not sure about +Kyle though. We got into a big discussion last night about the whole moving thing and he's managed to convince himself that no matter what he does, he's going to fail. (And with a defeatist attitude like that, I have to agree - convince yourself you'll fail and you'll drive yourself down that road.) Yet, my cautiously optimistic approach of "you don't know if you'll fail or if you've finally found what you'll be good at" is waved off as "unrealistic". Please tell me where optimism and realism are opposites, because he won't tell me, and I sure can't find it anywhere.
So now I don't know if that was just exhausted nonsense or if he really means it. *shrugs* I have no idea what to do or say, because he's one of these types that, when argued with, will find any way he can to make sure that the other party's argument is wrong. "Unacceptable answer" is a favorite retort these days.
*sigh* I'm so frustrated. I was finally getting to the point where the idea of moving was starting to be exciting and not just an uprooting, and now he does this. He's convinced he's worthless and would be better off if he'd never been born.
Does my opinion matter? Nooo... "I may be worth something to you, but I'm still a worthless individual" quoth he. He's right and he can't be wrong, in his mind.
I hope anyone reading this will pray for him to make the right decision. I still believe moving is what we're supposed to do because things are still moving in that direction even though he's made this statement. But how do you make an unrelenting person see when they're wrong? He's become the very thing he hates in that light.
Frustrated in Alabama
Overall, I'm doing ok...not sure about +Kyle though. We got into a big discussion last night about the whole moving thing and he's managed to convince himself that no matter what he does, he's going to fail. (And with a defeatist attitude like that, I have to agree - convince yourself you'll fail and you'll drive yourself down that road.) Yet, my cautiously optimistic approach of "you don't know if you'll fail or if you've finally found what you'll be good at" is waved off as "unrealistic". Please tell me where optimism and realism are opposites, because he won't tell me, and I sure can't find it anywhere.
So now I don't know if that was just exhausted nonsense or if he really means it. *shrugs* I have no idea what to do or say, because he's one of these types that, when argued with, will find any way he can to make sure that the other party's argument is wrong. "Unacceptable answer" is a favorite retort these days.
*sigh* I'm so frustrated. I was finally getting to the point where the idea of moving was starting to be exciting and not just an uprooting, and now he does this. He's convinced he's worthless and would be better off if he'd never been born.
Does my opinion matter? Nooo... "I may be worth something to you, but I'm still a worthless individual" quoth he. He's right and he can't be wrong, in his mind.
I hope anyone reading this will pray for him to make the right decision. I still believe moving is what we're supposed to do because things are still moving in that direction even though he's made this statement. But how do you make an unrelenting person see when they're wrong? He's become the very thing he hates in that light.
Frustrated in Alabama
