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lsdiamondOK so this isn't really the time to post this. It happened this morning, and I'm pretty well over it now, and I think +Kyle is over it too. Even so, I'm gonna post it, because it bugged me then, and it's BOUND to come up again sometime soon, if current trends continue.
What is so great about sex? What is that thing that makes men want it all the time? Why is it that, if the female doesn't want to have sex *right now*, the male must go into a pouting fit and act as though he's never going to get any again? After work is NOT such a long time to wait to get laid, especially when one only has, oh, 20 minutes to get ready FOR said work.
Am I just so off the wall and abnormal because I don't want to have sex every day? Is it wrong of me to say, "Sorry honey, I'm tired after this morning's romp - can we just cuddle tonight?" Should I just throw up my hands and put out any and every time he wants it? I'm SO sorry I'm not a nymphomaniac, but I don't want to be a sex object, either.
This is EXACTLY the kind of thing that we will have a huge blow-up hurt-feelings-all-around fight over, no matter what action I take. If I say (or imply), "Sure, honey, I love you, so I will look out for *your* feelings and desires, even though I really don't feel like having sex.", he will think that I don't care about sex, don't find him attractive, or some other such thing. That's not the case, of course, but I feel like I'm being hounded 24/7, and it's just getting to be too much.
But, if I'm honest with him and tell him, "Yes, dear, I love to have sex with you, but I just don't want to *right now*, it will be the same pouting fit over and over again.
Honestly...he asks me why I never come on to him. Doesn't he think for a second that if he would just leave me alone for a day or so, I might just have sexual feelings on my own, and BE ABLE to come on to him? He asks if I'm satisfied with our sex life. Now, in my mind that must mean, "Are you getting enough?" Yes, quite, thank you. Too much, actually. Isn't that what that means?
Oh, and by the way, if you're reading this, it's because I can trust you. Don't blow it. Yes, I'm snarky today. Guess what that means?
What is so great about sex? What is that thing that makes men want it all the time? Why is it that, if the female doesn't want to have sex *right now*, the male must go into a pouting fit and act as though he's never going to get any again? After work is NOT such a long time to wait to get laid, especially when one only has, oh, 20 minutes to get ready FOR said work.
Am I just so off the wall and abnormal because I don't want to have sex every day? Is it wrong of me to say, "Sorry honey, I'm tired after this morning's romp - can we just cuddle tonight?" Should I just throw up my hands and put out any and every time he wants it? I'm SO sorry I'm not a nymphomaniac, but I don't want to be a sex object, either.
This is EXACTLY the kind of thing that we will have a huge blow-up hurt-feelings-all-around fight over, no matter what action I take. If I say (or imply), "Sure, honey, I love you, so I will look out for *your* feelings and desires, even though I really don't feel like having sex.", he will think that I don't care about sex, don't find him attractive, or some other such thing. That's not the case, of course, but I feel like I'm being hounded 24/7, and it's just getting to be too much.
But, if I'm honest with him and tell him, "Yes, dear, I love to have sex with you, but I just don't want to *right now*, it will be the same pouting fit over and over again.
Honestly...he asks me why I never come on to him. Doesn't he think for a second that if he would just leave me alone for a day or so, I might just have sexual feelings on my own, and BE ABLE to come on to him? He asks if I'm satisfied with our sex life. Now, in my mind that must mean, "Are you getting enough?" Yes, quite, thank you. Too much, actually. Isn't that what that means?
Oh, and by the way, if you're reading this, it's because I can trust you. Don't blow it. Yes, I'm snarky today. Guess what that means?
